Many young people ask themselves, “Is this person right for me?”, “Should I stay in this relationship?”, “Is it good for me?” And discerning whether one is in the right relationship can be a difficult task. Priest Ignacio Amorós, through the Catholic channel Rebels Wanted, comes to the aid of these young people by presenting five criteria for recognizing authentic, mature, and God-centered love.
The training video is titled “The 5 Signs of a Good Christian Relationship” and offers five signs that help evaluate whether a relationship is built on real love and not on fleeting emotions or emotional dependencies.
The five signs, explained with real examples, are:
1. It makes you a better person
True love drives virtue, inner order, a healthier life, and moral and spiritual growth. “Good love lifts you up,” says Amorós, recalling the testimony of a young woman who said, “My boyfriend makes me a better person.”
2. It makes you better with others, especially your family
A healthy relationship does not isolate, cut ties, or confine. On the contrary, it leads to being a better son, brother, or friend. As the priest explains, “a good love leads you to love your loved ones better,” in contrast to possessive or closed relationships.
3. It gives you inner peace
Not a superficial peace without problems, but the deep peace that comes from the Holy Spirit when one acts in truth and goodness. “It is the serenity of a heart in love that does good,” says Amorós.
4. It allows you to live authentically, without hiding.
A healthy Christian relationship does not require leading a double life or hiding the relationship. The key question—inspired by St. Ignatius—is: “If your mother knew about this relationship, what would she say to you?” Transparency is a hallmark of authenticity.
5. It broadens your horizons and encourages you to dream big.
True love broadens the heart and life: it inspires projects, dreams, creativity, and desires for holiness. It does not extinguish, shrink, or suffocate. “When love enters a relationship, it makes you magnanimous,” says the priest.
After these five signs, the video adds what Amorós calls “the definitive sign”:
Brings you closer to God
A relationship that helps you discover Christ's love, live the truth, pray, participate in the life of the Church, and grow in humility, charity, and purity. “A good Christian courtship must lead you closer to God, no matter what.”
The video concludes with Mother Teresa's testimony, reminding us that authentic love is also expressed in concrete charity.
With an approachable and educational style, this content aims to be a useful tool for parishes, youth movements, family counselors, catechists, and parents who seek to better accompany young people on the path of Christian love.
